Help, he already is in a relationship!

It may be disapproved, but relationships of women with men who already are in a relationship or even married do often occur. Your friends may have a very black-and-white view of him or your relationship and may forget that this infatuation also has its bright sides. How can a woman deal with a situation like this? The following are a few tips to make sure that you remain in control of things.

Listen to your own feelings

It is sensible to ask your friends for advice, but don't forget that advices on love are often coloured by a person's own experiences. It is therefore best to listen to your own feelings. If it is the excitement you're after, withdraw from the relationship  and seek your excitement elsewhere. If it's really about him, enjoy your infatuation and make it clear to him that your feelings for him are serious.

Continue doing your own things

He cannot expect of you to adjust your life completely to his and be available whenever it is convenient for him. So keep exercising, going out with friends or whatever you enjoy doing. These things will provide a change and give you something to fall back on if he does not choose you.

Present an ultimatum

Presenting an ultimatum sounds uninviting and unromantic, which it is. It is not easy for him to make a choice. On the one hand he's in love with you, on the other he loves his girlfriend or wife and shares a lot of memories with her. Moreover, ending a relationship often has practical and financial consequences, which he will have to consider. Still, he should not drag his decision whether he chooses you or his wife or girlfriend. The longer your relationship lasts, the more you will become attached to him and to the benefits of a relationship, and the more difficult it will be if it does end after all. Explain this to him and indicate when you expect a decision of him. If he's only been in a relationship for a short time, a month will suffice. If he has been in a relationship for a longer period of time or is married, then two or three months is reasonable. In the end, the decision will be a relief to him as well... Good luck!  

Sources: www.todio.nl