How to find my perfect partner?

Finding a partner and finding out if this person really matches you and vice versa. These are questions which are often asked within our familiar and social environment. They leave the single with a variety of views, experiences and opinions. When you are searching for hard data, the manual from the Australian Adrienne Burgess will provide you with the information you need: finding and keeping the perfect partner. The book contains a lot of selftests, checklists, and suggestions on how to recognize true love. The book is a guideline where you can find useable aspects for finding a partner.

Paying attention to yourself

Adrienne Burgess is very clear about presentation. It´s a key aspect to a first encounter, namely, the first information you get from someone. Keep in mind though, that conclusions made based on appearance don´t have to match the inside of a person. Studies show that beautiful people are being considered smarter, nicer and more succesful. Feeling good about yourself and oozing self-confidence also adds to being attractive, according to Burgess.

Keep your eyes open

The most common way for partners to meet is through personal networks. Outside these networks, it's very important to keep looking around. Below a few suggestions:

• Be nice to your environment and act pro-active
• Accept invitations and invite people 
• Live life and take on nice activities
• Change your set and visit other bars
• Take a course in social skills if you feel socially unadapted
• Remember, every encounter is an opening to a new network

Besides the suggestions mentioned above, there are more opportunities to meet new people. Think about a hobby or practising sports. Especially for people who have lower self-confidence it can create a feeling of relaxation to do something they enjoy. Also the work environment can produce a new love, although it isn't the best place to be when the relation is going through rough times or even ends. Internet love has earned its place too and more and more people find suitable partners online.

Keep your distance at first

Both men and women give high appreciation to partners who come across as independent and self-confident. One suggestion that makes sense is to keep your distance at first. Don't come on too strong and don't mention that you are available all week. You don't ruin your chances if you ask someone out. Just don't be too quick, and on the other hand, don't wait too long.

Is it love, yes or no?

How important is love at first sight? Most people know within two months if they are really in love. The key aspect are the differences between "falling for someone" or "true love". Ask yourself why you are getting into the relationship. Reasons related to the outside, like nice friends, don't predict a future that's as nice as the future you'll get when you're in the relationship for inner reasons, like the happy feeling you have when you're with that special someone. Feelings of friendship are often underestimated, although they are very important. If these feelings are strongly present in the initial fase, you have an important ingredient for a long lasting relationship.

Don't ignore warning signs

 When you're at the beginning of a swirling love, the following aspects can influence this feeling in a negative way, namely:

• Being in competition with your partner
• feeling like love hurts
• having many highs and lows in the relationship
• you regard the physical part as the most significantly
• reasons regarding the outside are most important in the relationship

Elements to succes

If you both have the same level of appreciation for one another, your relationship will become more and more serious. How succesful your relationship will become in the end is unknown, although Burgess has some elements to succes which can be of help:

• having strong feelings for your partner, like admiration or tenderness
• involvement
• besides physical attraction, having a strong friendship
• you both have the same level of attractiveness
• same number of previous relationships

According to the book?

Love happens, and you don't need to use a manual when it does. However, Adrienne Burgess´s manual has some useful suggestions that you can remember when you have just met someone nice and want to know if you found true love. When you truly are in love, just relax and enjoy.

Sources: www.todio.nl