Cheating, how do you notice it?

Cheating, the big pitfall for every relationship. Trust is for many people the most important thing in a relationship. Yet an incredible amount of people cheats. Studies have shown that the Netherlands has 1.6 million illegitimate children. Research also shows that 25% of people cheats. Shocking numbers and a chance of 1 in 4 that this is happening in your relationship. Time to protect yourself against this psychological blow. A few ways to find out if your partner has remained faithful.

Presents

Are you suddenly, without reason, showered with gifts? Then consider carefully that there could be a reason behind this random surprise. In that case your partner has a guilty conscience and wants to buy this off with gifts.

Lots of working

Is your partner often working and is it always busy at work? There is a chance that this is indeed the case. Another reason could be that your partner is looking for an excuse to set time aside for an affair. If all those extra hours don't translate into extra money on the pay slip, it's time to ask questions.

No more time for you

Your partner hangs out with friends a lot and has less and less time for you. Your partner could be cheating and therefore doesn't need you for his or her needs immediately anymore. 

Other reasons for cheating

The above is only a selection from the long list of striking characteristics which can point to unfaithfulness. Another fifteen characteristics which can reveal cheating:

1. Your partner wants no (or less) sex with you.
2. Your partner is being secretive about their schedule.
3. You're no longer important to them.
4. "I love you" has disappeared from your lover's dictionary.
5. Your partner shows no interest in the future of your relationship.
6. Your partner no longer compliments you on your looks.
7. Your partner no longer talks to you and the mutual communication has disappeared.
8. Lack of confidence can lead to your partner filling up this shortage by cheating. (Remember that this isn't always the case, but insecurity can lead to a need to be wanted.)
9. Your friends ask what's wrong with your partner. Changes in behaviour in a relationship are often noticed sooner by people close to you. So listen closely to what they tell you about your partner's behaviour.
10. Your partner suddenly contracted an STD.
11. During a conversation about cheating your partner suddenly adjusts their opinion and says cheating doesn't necessarily have to mean the end of a relationship.
12. Your partner is using the computer and the internet more than in the past. This can point to having (sexual) contact on the web.
13. Your partner feels offended/threatened by your remarks (no matter how innocent) quickly.
14. Your partner is uninterested and distant during sex.
15. Your partner receives all sorts of texts which are deleted almost immediately.

Be careful with wrongfully accusing your partner. This could lead to unnecessary fighting and an extreme form of jealousy and contribute to a further breakdown of the relationship.

Sources: www.todio.nl